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The way you deal with unwanted attention depends on the particular situation. In isolated instances of unwanted attention, ignoring the person or persons involved may be effective. Situations of unwanted attention that occur at work or in another location where you need to continually interact with the person may be dealt with by confronting him. If the attention is persistent and abusive, you may need to get help from law enforcement or another authority.
Some types of unwanted attention involve strangers making comments to you on the street. Usually, men will say things to women as they walk by concerning the woman's appearance or other characteristics. While in some cases the attention is harmless, in others it can make you feel threatened or insecure.
One option is to ignore the person making the comments. Usually when someone says something to a stranger, he wants to grab her attention. The best way to handle the attention is by pretending you do not notice it. If the comment is so inappropriate that you cannot resist responding, it's best to stay calm. In an even tone, ask the person to repeat himself. Don't make witty remarks back him.
You may receive unwanted attention at work, either from a supervisor or a co-worker, or in a social setting from an acquaintance. Deal with unwanted workplace attention by first speaking with the person who is bothering you. Remain calm and collected when speaking to him and explain that you are not interested or that you feel his actions are unprofessional. If the attention continues, you should go to a manager or human resources supervisor and report it.
If an acquaintance is paying you too much attention or a friend is asking for too much of your time, you may need to deflect his phone calls or emails. Don't answer the phone when he calls or call him back. He should understand after a while that you are not interested. If you were previously close friends, you may need to explain to the person why you are taking a step back and are no longer interested in spending time with him.
Sometimes unwanted attention can escalate to a stalking situation. If a person continues to call you, write to you, or shows up at your house uninvited, you may need to get the authorities involved. In some cases, a restraining order or other legal action may be necessary. If you ever feel threatened or scared of the attention you receive from someone, report it immediately.