What is Female Ejaculation?
Female ejaculation is a topic of dispute, though there are historical references of it that go back for millennia. As understood now, it is the sudden and heavy production or squirting of ejaculate matter that is different in its origin from the vaginal lubrication that occurs during types of sexual contact. Female ejaculate is said to arise from the paraurethral glands and it is sometimes merely dismissed as a release of urine. There are arguments on whether ejaculation is or is not truly urine, and some people strongly support that it is not based on limited testing. Another issue of particular debate is whether all women can experience it, and this matter is very unclear, with many claiming it’s impossible for any women to actually experience this, and others claiming all women can, or at least a few women do.
In the world of sexual knowledge, most people are accustomed to thinking of the ejaculation of men, which typically occurs at the point of orgasm. In women, orgasm isn’t necessarily tied to female ejaculation, and there isn’t a lot of evidence that it makes sex more pleasurable. Some women experiencing this are dismayed by an excess of fluid leaking from the vagina or they could assume they have lost bladder control and be embarrassed. There are some people who posit the idea that this form of ejaculation actually means achieving a higher level of pleasure or sexual intimacy, but so few legitimate studies exist on the matter, this claim must be considered questionable.
Often, female ejaculation is linked to manual stimulation of the g-spot, which can be accessed in the vagina, though it exists outside of it. The g-spot is actually the paraurethral glands, so in massaging or touching of these, which are under the vagina, it might stimulate a response of sudden production and expulsion of paraurethral fluid. Other women have reported they don’t require g-spot stimulation in order to experience female ejaculation, and may experience it during any type of sexual engagement. As with male ejaculation, the fluid produced can be a little messy, and people attempting to achieve ejaculation in the female may want to at minimum, cover surfaces like mattresses with towels.
Though knowledge about female ejaculation is still relatively limited, there are a few things that are generally agreed upon. First, if this occurs and is really not urine, not all women experience it and it’s possible that not all women can if the paraurethral glands are very small or minimal. Second, it’s unclear that this form of ejaculation somehow means sex is better or more intimate. For some couples, this may be a sign of extreme intimacy, while other couples do very well without it, fully enjoying their sexual lives. Those embarrassed by it might be able to avoid it with less stimulation of the g-spot, or could learn to celebrate an experience that is described by some as rare or even non-existent.
I just turned 41 and had this experience for the first time in my life. I attribute it to two things: 1) he can last longer now that we’re older, and isn’t quite as big and hard, so it doesn’t hurt anymore. I can relax and enjoy. 2) we have longer lovemaking sessions now that the kids are older. Okay... and 3) we just got a vibrator for the first time, and I don’t have to work so hard or stress or pressure myself to reach a climax.
Oh, and fellow ladies - you need a Liberator waterproof sheet/throw because the towel thing does get old! Enjoy!
This is for all you guys out there: If you want your wife to squirt, don't tell her you're trying to do that to her. It will just make her feel like she has to, which will stop it from happening.
I always thought it was just some fake thing you see in pornos, but as I would stimulate my wife's g-spot over time it started leaking a little, then more, now she does it a lot. And its a hell of a good feeling knowing you got her there.
It just happened to me last night! I'm 62, my hormones are in the toilet and it shocked the hell out of me. Like everyone else I thought I was urinating. Thank god I was alone! But upon further inspection it wasn't urine, no smell or color...hummm. Back in the day I was a recovering catholic. Need I say more? A long time has passed and many O's later I believe in female ejaculate. Unlearn? Don't be stupid young woman. Sex is a great way to determine the strength of your love relationship. The more you "hide" from your partner or yourself the less satisfying your O's will be. Or they may just go away. Who would want to lose that stress relief? Just keep exploring. You could be amazed!
I have just recently discovered my ability to ejaculate but I did it through masturbation to be sure it wasn't urine. It's not and it can squirt out depending on you position. It feels really good but I can't do it all the time only when I'm super nympho.
I squirt -- copious amounts. My man loves it. The better hydrated I am, the better it tastes. It's also important that I refrain from eating and drinking strong smelling foods and drinks.
How did I learn? I read a book!
"Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot: Not Your Mother's Orgasm Book!" by Deborah Sundahl
All women who achieve orgasm ejaculate, however most women experience what's called a "retrograde ejaculation" when they orgasm. The ejaculatory fluid never makes it into the urethral canal because it is being blocked by muscles in the vaginal region that cause the fluid to instead back up into the bladder. The fluids are expelled when urinating following an orgasm. This is why women usually need to pee after sex. And this is also why you hear the term "learning to ejaculate" when talking to women who didn't ejaculate until they learned or were coached through the process of identifying the muscles and consequently controlling that muscle group. This can be done through various exercises, but can be tricky for some women because the muscle group is also responsible for keeping urine from entering the urethral canal and the fear of urinating during sex can be a hurdle.
The reason many women only ejaculate during a g-spot orgasm and not during a clitoral orgasm is that the pressure being placed on the g-spot is causing a reflexive muscle reaction like mild spasms (similar to when the doc taps on your knee with a mallet in that spot that causes you to kick) to the very same muscles that keep urine and female ejaculatory fluid from entering the urethral canal. This is the likely cause of urine being identified as the fluid ejaculated by some women. Learning to control that muscle group and how to keep urine from entering the urethra without closing it off to the glands that produce the ejaculate is best for those women, rather than playing roulette with with your g-spot or worse yet, not allowing yourself to enjoy g-spot stimulation.
The female ejaculate fluid is similar chemically to the fluid "base" in a mans ejaculate (when males ejaculate the sperm are released from one area and the "base" fluid from another area and mixes into semen in the urethra during orgasm). Women who "squirt" before orgasm are experiencing the equivalent of "pre-ejaculation" in a man. The big mystery, or mysteries (because there are two) are; (1) What is the biological purpose of female ejaculate? and (2) Why do women seem to produce so much more ejaculatory fluid than men?
The fact is, we don't know, and the taboo nature of the subject has caused scientific evaluation of this biological function to also become taboo from a clinical or professional stand point, as well as a political land mine (possible social ramifications?). Science is full of these examples of why science can't be trusted, but I digress.
However, an important recent clinical study was done that evaluated urine samples from women who ejaculate and women who don't. In short, the urine samples of women who didn't ejaculate contained the chemicals found in male and female ejaculate, while urine samples of women who did ejaculate did not contain those chemicals. The conclusions from this study are my source for some of the info in the first paragraph. This study was a big breakthrough in my opinion, not because of the results, but because the study was discussed on Oprah. So if you're interested but don't like reading, you can find the Oprah show online.
I read some of the comments on this article and I noticed some from woman who ejaculate and don't like it, and one even said that she was considering seeing a doctor to "un-learn how to
ejaculate", based on the fact that some women actually "learn how to ejaculate". In response to her comment, which I feel compelled to make, I want to first preface it by stating that I am a man of the extremely heterosexual variety. I know this because I think about (let me be frank) sex constantly, and that's if I'm not looking at sex on a screen, or when significant astrological formations occur, enjoying actual sex. I'm 36 years old, I love vaginas as much or more than when I was 18. I even thought vaginas were awesome back when I thought girls were gross. *Please note that I have no problem with gay guys at all, I have gay friends, in fact. I would like to see a much higher percentage of men on the gay team. I think 80-85 percent is reasonable.*
So, in response to the woman who wants to learn how not to "squirt" and to women everywhere who ejaculate and don't enjoy it, I say this. If your partner/s are not fond of your fem fluid or the source of your negative feelings about ejaculating, then they must not like it, and if they don't like it why give it to them? I know I'm not the only guy who will proudly admit that he swallows and who happily sleeps in the wet spot. I wouldn't even bother trying to have sex with a woman if she expressed a dislike for ejaculate.
And if your partner isn't the cause of your negative feelings towards your own ejaculating, then you are the likely source. And if you're the source, and you're not tied up in "location" (which gives the "inconvenience" and "too messy" excuses some legitimacy) it begs the question, why?
Why I can only guess, but my guess is the most likely I'm guessing. It's physical evidence of either sexual desire or sexual satisfaction. And if this occurs during sex with a partner, that person will naturally allow themselves at least partial credit for the arousal and/or a job well done. But what if the person you're having sex with, you view in an adversarial way, or worse, like an enemy? That physical evidence, in reality, is proof of nothing more than a female who finds her sexual partner desirable and/or she had an orgasm during vaginal/anal or from receiving oral sex.
It's normal that one would choose to have sex with someone that they found sexually attractive, and having an orgasm during, or as the finale of sex with that someone would be a desirable outcome normally, right? But some women feel that they are arming the enemy, who is also their sexual partner (I use the word partner instead of men because I don't know for sure that this does not occur with lesbians, although I doubt that it does), when they allow their partners to know they enjoy the pleasures given them, and an ejaculating orgasm would logically be the most convincing and undeniable expression of that temporary joy possible. And while in reality that "squirting" event doesn't provide any firepower for the enemy, it may swell the enemy's pride a bit.
Technically, female ejaculate does provide a social counterclaim to a defamatory accusation levied by a "squirter" upon a sexual partner, regarding the partner's disappointing bedroom expertise. A valid "squirt" counterclaim can only be made by someone who is moderately to very paranoid about their social status, has plenty of nerve, and enough craftiness to successfully conduct a "Lewinsky" operation and remain undetected, with the evidence safely stored in an undisclosed location.
I found out recently that I can ejaculate and it was certainly a shock. I too hadn't heard of it before and I also thought that I was urinating at first. I'm not sure what I think about female ejaculation. It is certainly messy and sometimes, very inconvenient to experience. At the same time, I do enjoy it. It's a feeling of relief and gratification that is different from orgasm.
If a woman doesn't ejaculate and is happy with her sexual life, I don't think that she needs to pursue female ejaculation. I agree with the article that it's not necessary for pleasure and a great sexual life. It just happens to some people and doesn't happen to others.
@SarahGen-- It happens to me and I don't like it. The first time it happened, I thought that I was urinating. It was embarrassing and messy. I'm actually thinking about seeing a doctor about it. I want to learn how to control it and prevent. I know that some women want to experience female ejaculation and are trying to learn. If it's something that can be learned, I think I could learn to stop it.
I have never heard of this before and it has never happened to me. Are there any ladies here who have experienced this? What is your opinion on it?
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